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What to learn from Porn?

I am writing a lesson plan looking at how the media (TV, Film and Porn) distorts our image of Sex and Relationships. First half of the lesson is focusing on relationships and seeing how soaps, sit coms, and rom coms portray them. Second half is focusing on how Porn portrays sex. 


One of my exercises will be handing out a collection of statements about what people can learn from porn. Their task will be to then decide if that think a lesson learnt from porn is true, false or some where in between. This is my list so far. Please let me know what you think, can you learn all this from porn and could you separate true from false



  • It is normal for women to have hairless vaginas
  • All men have big penises
  • Sex is better when it is fast, forceful and rough
  • Anal sex is clean and simple 
  • Penis shape can vary from one person to another
  • Nipples can get erect when people aroused
  • Males normally ejaculate about half a cup of semen
  • Sex is possible all over the place (not just in a bed)
  • Most people don't use condoms
  • Boobs are meant to be big
  • Sex normally lasts for hours
  • Real men always stay fully erect in the presence of a naked person they are attracted to
  • All women enjoy threesomes
  • There are hundreds of sexual positions
  • Sex normally happens under very bright light
  • Labia are normally quiet small
I hope this exercise will help young people start to recognise that what they could see in porn is not likely to match up to their own current or future sex lives. 


EDIT: just turned this list into the handouts I will be using. Including linking the lessons to possible consequences. PDF version of handouts  



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